'I don't buy it'

“I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did.”

His words came at me like a speeding fist, like a sucker punch, yet somehow in that moment I was able to duck. And once I recovered and composed myself, I managed to say, “I don’t buy it.” Because I didn’t.

It's a bit of an oldie now, but Laura Munson's New York Times article on the unconventional steps she took to save her marriage is still popular, and for good reason. Munson's recognition of her husband's inner turmoil and her refusal to let him drag her down -- and the way she stood up for her children's well-being -- teach some principles worth taking to heart. I'm sure they wouldn't work for every marriage, but these principles just might end up saving a few.

And though I don't think the author is coming at this from a Christian point of view, there's something here for Christians as well as nonbelievers. Actually, it sounds like a practical example of turning the other cheek while still maintaining one's dignity and self-respect.

 

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  1. Excellent article. I've been watching too many marriages--and families--crumble. Do we in the Christian community fight for our families as hard as this woman did?
  2. This is a great article! I agree, her message never gets old. Jeff Kemp, President at Stronger Families, wrote a very helpful blog post on what she did to keep her marriage together and why it worked! http://www.strongerfamilies.org/blog/married/2009/09/17/i-dont-buy-it-how-one-woman-kept-her-marriage-together/
  3. Excellent article! I forwarded the link to a group of men I counsel with.

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