Billy Ray Cyrus recently told GQ magazine that “Hannah Montana destroyed my family.”
Aside from the ending of his 17-year marraige to wife Tish, Billy Ray's heart is also "achy breaky" over his superstar daughter Miley Cyrus. Miley raised some eyebrows recently for some non-positive-role-model-like behavior, such as pole-dancing during a performance on TV and smoking from a bong. Billy Ray said, "I'm scared for her… she's got a lot of people around her that's putting her in a great deal of danger. I know she's 18, but I still feel like as her daddy I'd like to try to help. Take care of her just a little bit, to at least get her out of danger."
I don’t know what’s like to raise a pop superstar, but what Billy Ray and I (and other dads too) can agree on is that our daughters will always be little girls no matter how old or successful they become. We want our young princesses to be safe, respected and grounded by positive role models and influences.
In his book Re-Create, Ron Luce urges parents to go after their kids and not let popular culture claim their hearts and minds. He says, “We can and must create a new culture in our family that actually transcends the pop culture so that our kids can clearly discern the difference and be wise enough to avoid being lured in.” If parents don’t guard children against pop culture, children with embrace its negative values that can “eventually destroy them.”
Unfortunately it’s too late for Billy Ray and the parents of Lindsey Lohan, Britney Spears, and Amy Winehouse. We’ve witnessed how their pop star daughters have fallen and seen how consequences of their bad choices are catching up to them. Maybe these celebrity dads can form a special support group to share regret stories and talk about what happens when parents let the world raise their daughters instead of doing it themselves.