I just read Vicki Larson's piece about soon-to-be former Congressman Anthony Weiner in the Huffington Post, "Hot or Not? Why Women Shouldn't Pick Attractive Husbands." According to the research, Larson writes, good-looking guys make lousy husbands because "guys who are rated as the most masculine . . . tend to have more testosterone, and men with higher testosterone levels are 43 percent more likely to get divorced than men with normal levels ... and 38 percent more likely to cheat. In other words, they may be better cads than dads."
In other words, men don't have any choice but to cheat: Their testosterone makes them do it.
What nonsense. Thirty-three years ago this month, I married a man who is incredibly handsome, smart, accomplished, fit, highly educated, and extremely masculine. (He's also very funny.) One big reason I married him: his character. I knew his commitment to Christ meant a commitment to being a faithful husband and loving father. No way would he ever say, "Sorry, Honey, my testosterone made me do it," partly because he knows that's a crap excuse (because cheating is a choice), and partly because I've got my grandmother's antique (and very heavy) rolling pin and I know how to use it (and I don't mean for rolling out pie crust).
When the good Lord told men to be faithful to their wives, he didn't make exceptions for men with higher-than-average testosterone levels. And, as King David painfully learned, God doesn't like it when we disobey his commands.
As Katherine Hepburn reminded Humphrey Bogart in The African Queen: "Nature, Mr. Alnutt, is what we are put in this world to rise above."
Anthony Weiner chose not to. Millions of other husbands, with more character than Weiner has, do. Including mine.