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More bitter fruit from the Pearls


It seems that a sermon by North Carolina pastor Sean Harris, in which he advocates giving "a good punch" to little boys who act "a little girlish," is going viral. Note the T-shirt Harris is wearing in the photo at this link: It says "No Greater Joy." That's Michael and Debi Pearl's organization.

Yes, that Michael and Debi Pearl.

Does anyone still doubt that the Pearls' teachings are dangerous? You don't have to be a fan of dressing up little boys in girls' clothes to recognize that hitting them is hardly an appropriate, effective, or loving way to handle the issue. But when the Pearls teach that hitting is a training method, rather than a last-resort, carefully carried out punishment, this is what you get: hitting for innocent behavior by a child too young to even know what's going on.

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"More bitter fruit from the Pearls"
I want to express my appreciation for the ministry of Breakpoint, and the gift that Charles Colson was to the world. I've benefited greatly from his many broadcasts, especially the commentaries.

However, I'm perplexed -- and deeply disturbed -- by this and some preceding Breakpoint articles criticizing Michael & Debi Pearl. Each time, someone who had done horrendous things to their children were supposedly affiliated with the "No Greater Joy" ministry, based on a t-shirt or book.

What I fail to understand is how these actions, which are totally contradictory to anything taught in the book, "To Train Up a Child," could be cause for criticism of the book or their ministry. Have the writers of the articles actually read it? Please help me understand the purpose of posting such condemning articles on the Breakpoint website, which is otherwise a source of truth.

Thank you,
Marilyn Lentz
"Harris has walked back his words a bit. ”If I had to say it again, I would say it differently, no doubt,” Harris said Tuesday. “Those weren’t planned words, but what I do stand by is that the word of God makes it clear that effeminate behavior is ungodly. I’m not going to compromise on that.” "

Unplanned words are the ones that come straight from our hearts. What comes out of our mouths makes us unclean...

And where in the Bible does it say that effeminate behavior is ungodly? Sean Harris' rant makes me nauseous and angry. To condone cracking a son's wrist, punching a son's face, and *demanding* that our daughter's "be beautiful, be attractive and ... dress yourself up" is to condone physical and emotional child abuse. Focusing on externals, forcing certain behaviors and dress while literally pounding out others will never shepherd a child's heart to Jesus.

What this man describes is the opposite of winsomely winning our children to Christ. As my children grow older, I'm becoming less and less the commander they needed when very young. While the commander within me is still present when needed, I'm much more often the coach using discussion, encouragement, reason and example to motivate them to right behavior. It's my "make like a mamma duck" approach: Lead in the direction you want them to go. Or from a sailor's perspective: you can't push a rope.